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A Separation
A SEPARATION
I was running a workshop and one of the participants mentioned these photographs remind him of the Ian Dury song, You Are The Empty Spaces in My Wardrobe. I never found the song but maybe it's one of Dury's lyrics?
They say the loss of a significant person in one's life will initiate a grief response. My reaction was to produce a permanent visual record and photographic evidence of how she disappeared from my life.
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Her hair in the bath
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Missing Left Earring Under The Bed
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Missing from Our Bed
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Missing Clothes
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Hair Brush
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Missing Diamond from Her Wedding Ring
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Her Packed Luggage
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Dead Lillies
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Her Discarded Bra & Hair Clips
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Mickey & Mini framed Picture & Crack in The Wall
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Her MRI Scan
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Discoloured Skin Under My Wedding Band